Seal those lips, do as you’re told,
lock your heart, instructed my mother.
She forgot to mention; my mind; & innocent soul!
Marry the man, I have been told, dress in bridal, and be quick; today is the day for you two to meet, and be whole.
Be whole! Or broken like fragments of glass. Our eyes have not met, our hearts neither attached, my life given away, to reside with a foreign stranger.
In the market of animals, I have been sold, to merry the man, who is yet unknown.
layered with henna, red bridal clothes, jewellery to add attraction for the foreign bidders’ eyes, this room becomes a showroom, to dazzle the winning possession, where I am held, and must hold.
Death do us part, a lifetime engagement, I signed my life, and married death; welcome me with open arms, as you all watch the drama unroll, for reality begins today, with a bitter brutal taste.
Sobia
In dedication to all those who have been forced to marry, the culture is still alive and prevalent today.
-Photography Credits belong to Ali Xeeshan Theatre Studio.
Raw and powerful
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Thank you dear, I’m happy to hear your lovely feedback.
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It is always a pleasure
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You are always welcome here.
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Such a heart breaking reality! Beautifully said.
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Thank you dear, I’m glad you like it. Thank you for your feedback.
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You are most welcome. I look forward to reading more 🙂
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Feel free to read my Love Falls poem, I’m not usually content with my writings but that one seems to draw my attention.
Thank you.
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Oh my! Don’t we know about this so well in pour part of the world? What a wonderful write on practice that’s best done away with!
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Thank you Kunal, indeed it’s sad that it exists but it happens.
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Oh don’t I know that! 😔
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I can imagine.
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To be very honest each of your post conveys something. I feel spellbound. It sounds so meaningful. For a while I ponder over the topic. But it is more about me. That’s what I do. I mostly forget to talk about something that is so magnificent. Awesome read! I must congratulate you for this. The topic is worth writing.
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Thank you Smita, your kind comments and feedback are what make my day and encourage me to write further. Thank you for taking the time to comment and read my posts. It’s appreciated.
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Most welcome.
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It is a powerful play of words that brings out the helplessness and melancholy of the woman!
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I appreciate your kind feedback, I’ve tried to delve into the emotion of an individual enduring this.
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You have more than succeeded in bring out the very best!
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Thank you, you’re very kind with your words.
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After so many many centuries of forced marriage in different cultures one would think that the corporate unhappiness experienced by those cultures would seek a liberation for both men and women. Why sentence ourselves to unhappiness? Forced marriage is a total disregard for personhood. Thanks for your recent visit to my blog.
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Thank you Carl, I agree it certainly is, no one should be forced and that’s something many are still battling.
Thank you for visiting Carl.
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You didn’t have to do this right? I feel stupid asking you that lol. Thats a horrible tradition
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Nope I didn’t, but I have come across others who did.
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Do you have a view on the Sharia courts which operate here in the UK? I read a recent article by a Muslim woman in which she said that the courts tend to favour males (particularly husbands) and frequently put pressure on women to remain in abusive relationships. Kevin
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I would say my experience has been different from what you have read, knowing women personally who have undergone such experiences and found help and support in their favour, I cant understand the view you have come across. Especially if it has been in Sharia courts as they have to carry a just and a balanced view. I understand they do try to encourage to maintain the marriage, and aim to see if there is a resolve but otherwise within Sharia, the women and men both are supported equally. If it has been otherwise then they are not following Sharia but are acting contrary to it. I hope this helps Kevin. Thank you for your interest and for asking.
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However since you mention domestic violence then in cases as such, women are supported and never discouraged to leave. That seems like a culture issue than a religious or Islamic.
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Many thanks for your response. From your experience of talking with women who have used the courts, it would appear that they have benefited from the system. I have no knowledge of how Sharia courts operate so am open minded as to their benefits. The article I mentioned is by a Muslim woman and can be found here, (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3358625/Inside-Britain-s-Sharia-courts-EIGHTY-FIVE-Islamic-courts-dispensing-justice-UK-special-investigation-really-goes-doors-shock-core.html). I am not a fan of The Daily Mail but this article does reference documented instances when Sharia courts do not seem to have acted in the best interests of the ladies concerned. Domestic violence is a problem in all communities and occurs amongst people of all faiths and those who have no belief and (obviously) needs to be condemned irrespective of who perpetrates it. Kevin
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Thank you Kevin, I think culture plays a great part in this, culture and tradition seems to override faith, and this is where the problems lie. For if they had followed faith, they would not indulge in lifting a finger against another, or even being unjust.
I understand that many name ‘Sharia courts’ to attract and garner business, and when you look within they are far from Sharia and it’s understanding. It’s sad because they hide behind the name and are far from understanding what it calls for. It’s sad to see such cases, and it’s sad to see people abusing their positions under the guise of shariah.
Thank you Kevin for your interest.
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I agree it still prevails. This post explored a thing which is usually overlooked. The pain visible quite easily. Well done for writing it.
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Thank you Puneet, yes and it’s sad that it still does.
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Yup and I hate it from the core of my heart.
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Me too.
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I always enjoy your choice of subjects, this one is no exception. You beautifully captured the emotions that might go on in the mind of the victim–victims they are!–I cannot imagine someone going through that, heart murdered dead.
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Thank you Rob, I’ve always believed to write my heart on paper. It’s often been the reason behind my chosen subjects, it’s what my hearts attached to or feels at that moment of time.
Thank you for visiting Rob, your time is much appreciated.
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Always a pleasure. I get a lot from your words
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Thank you Rob, I’m humbled by your words.
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I really wonder how many of them are sold…in different ways though to stranges, situations and forced to live life…if we could call it so…
Pain unheard!!
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Very true and it’s sad it is still prevalent.
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This is true to men too. You know what it’s surprising to say mostly men are forced and rather than girls,because when a girl marry and move out of house family not much bothered but when a guy marry a girl whom these parents don’t like it makes the family to feel so much hurt and hence many men do forced to get married and they just live for it.. They just feel after all it’s just another woman for pleasure and kids …i happened to see many.. girls are forced too when they are uneducated or little dumb.. And when a girl is educated and head some voice she moves out easily but not same with guys
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Thank you Martian, both men and women are forced no doubt. Many educated women in the west have also gone through this and held on due in the name of honour and culture. It’s a sad reality.
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Are u from Western countries or India.. mostly in India we are forced
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I am from a western country.
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Where..I thought you are an Indian..
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Nope, I am from UK, it is mentioned in the about me section.
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That is great dude mostly Indians are forced to marry
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It happens everywhere, in India, Pakistan, Afghanistan, Bangladesh possibly neighbouring countries too. Also in western countries if your parents are from that background too.
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Yes that is sad
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Are u guy or girl? parents more concerned of guys
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So Nice.
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This is the first post I’ve read on your blog….. definitely following!
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Thank you Soulance blog. Appreciate the kind feedback.
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The picture itself speaks a lot…you have beautifully expressed through words.. It’s really painful to realise that many girls have to suffer 😦
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Thank you Sara, I appreciate the feedback. Yes it indeed is and it’s sad to see many go through this.
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A very heartfelt written piece…
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Thank you J L Hunt, appreciate the feedback
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Very sad but truthful.
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Thank you for reading. Indeed it is.
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You’re welcome Sobia.
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Oh my God…this one gave me goosebumps!
It’s so sad that this still exists…in a world so big and beautiful…
I love how you wrote this!
Keep up the good work!
Kitty
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Thank you Kitty, appreciate the feedback .
Yes unfortunately it does exist, it’s quiet sad.
Thank you.
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This poem is so powerful. It breaks my heart. Great writing!
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Thank you Rachel, you’re feedback is greatly appreciated.
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it’s powerfully well-written sister, even in my culture it doesnt exist anymore, i can feel it, i knew such culture out there which i cant mention
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Thank you sister for you’re feedback, I greatly appreciate it. Yes unfortunately it still does exist and it is very sad that it does.
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Wow, this is such a powerful piece! Every line is very capturing.
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Thank you Sainab, I appreciate the feedback.
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So beautifully expressed…..I am touched….you have magic in your writing…..keep up the good work….
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Thank you, I truest appreciate feedback and I’m glad you enjoyed it sis.
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Sad and painful!! Your words are so powerful that I can actually feel the sadness.
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Thank you sis, I’m glad you were able to connect to it.
I appreciate you’re feedback.
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Sub han Allah…I’ve seen so many documentaries on contractual marriages. I can’t say I could ever agree to any kind of weddings unless it was by my choice. I would feel so afraid, and awkward. Of course, I’m a romantic, so it’d be hard to just open up.
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Yes true sis, very sad indeed.
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Wow you are such a powerful writer. I could feel the pain between the lines. So sad how many women have to suffer from forced marriages 😦
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Thank you Nazima, appreciate the feedback, yes indeed, it’s sad it exists so therefore I saw the need to write about it.
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Definitely a powerful subject. The emotions are conveyed well here!
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Thank you Jade, I appreciate you’re feedback.
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Wow, you words are soo powerful and portrays this sadness and misery that’s to befall upon the victims of forced marriages, May Allah protect us all.
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Nice Blog, i’ll love your visit to my blog 😉
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Sure will do 👍🏼
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Thank you for liking it.
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I’ve tried visiting you’re blog but I get the message versatilelaraib is no longer available, the author has deleted the site?
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http://www.versatilelaraibblog.wordpress.com this is the site 🙂
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This is so sad. It is also against what Prophet Muhammad SAW taught us. Women are allowed to choose who she wishes to marry. May Allah protect all thise who are in this situation.
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Aameen
Yes precisely but people are adamant to follow culture and disregard what is correct to do.
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Sad and painful that this still exists. May all those women be healed and find strength in the One.
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Aameen
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My heart broke reading your words. My woman should ever have to go through this.
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Thank you for reading, yes it’s sad, but I’ve come across many cases relating to very sad endings too.
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This is so beautifully sad. May God guard and protect those broken souls, and reimburse them for their hardships. Ameen.
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Aaww Thank you Khawlah, Alhamdulillah I found you finally, missed you’re writing. SubhanAllaah
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Very touching. I hope this culture will be dumped where it still prevails.How can one be put in hell all one’s life? To be forced to live with someone you do not love is like living in hell. It is unjust and unfair.
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Thank you Ngobesing, indeed I hope so too. Thank you for you’re feedback.
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oh. oh. oh my! the melancholy in each line! the sadness! geez. this is a powerful write! 🙂
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Thank you Rosema, I appreciate the feedback. 👍🏼
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you’re welcome! 🙂
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👍🏼
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